This one will definitely win over some hearts. The truth is a bitter pill to swallow for some. Its completely honest and will shed some light on certain lifestyle elements that are keeping good people single and undateable.
Full disclosure: I have been single for 7 years. I have no embarrassment about it. I don't date women that have no goals or ambition. My standards for my life are high and I only keep company with people that can add value. That being said, I'll tell you EXACTLY what online dating really is about.
Men and women essentially want the same things in a partner:
But we select our potential mates completely differently. For the majority of this article, I'll be focused on online dating sites and maximizing your attractiveness. The advice however, absolutely works in real life applications as well.
I get hit on via dating sites almost daily. I ignore 95% of girls that write to me. I'm not some superficial jerk, I just realize that dating someone I have low interest in is a waste of time for both of us. The women that I ignore have the following traits:
1. Haven't maximized their body type (either need to lose weight or gain toned muscle).
2. Have shitty pictures (blurry, only headshots indicating body embarrassment, far away pics that dont show what she looks like).
3. Have awfully written profiles that demonstrate low intelligence or absence of any high tier cognitive ability. (for Christ's sakes, I have 6 degrees and you are writing "luv tatts on hawt guyz, luv to B spoiledddddd")
Guys, you aren't off the hook either. My BFF Heather, has been online dating for awhile (she's a high level exec and doesn't have time for most of your shenanigans either) and has shared some wonderful insight:
*Don't show up with a giant bald spot or completely bald after your pics have you looking like you have a glorious Fabio mane of hair, Einstein
*SHUT UP ABOUT YOURSELF, don't dominate the conversation and make it about how great you are (yeah, I really wrote that, I can't believe it either)
*Don't be uber creepy and touch her, talk about sex stuff, or be insecure and whiny. Girls smell fear and weakness. You're a man. Act like one.
So now that I have pointed out some serious flaws that many of you aren't addressing, I will teach you how to maximize your DSV (dating social value).
*Women look at profiles and subconsciously ask, "Will he be supportive and gain the approval of my friends and family?"
Be that guy. If you don't have a career you are proud of, go back to school. Seek a better job. Its not about money, its about stability. After 30, you shouldn't have roommates, you should have a portfolio and an empire. You should be a guy that women fight over.
Start a fitness program, eat better, use the articles in this blog to lose fat, find free school, be smarter and COMPLETELY revamp who you are. When you meet that special lady, YOU MUST CONTINUE TO ACT LIKE YOU ARE DATING. Don't get complacent just because you finally got her to commit to you. Trust me, she has plenty of choices and most of them involve some bouncer that has a speedbike and an AK-47 tattoo.
*Men look at your pictures first because we are genetically programmed to seek mates that are healthy and have strong child bearing features (sorry if you think that's sexist but its true). We are most drawn to 2 body types:
Thin, lean, Crossfit athletic types............................and curvy, pretty girls with big hips and big boobs
Girls that have muffin tops, wear clothes that are too tight and that have double chins are NOT CURVY. I know there are many misconceptions about body awareness because of fat acceptance, Tess Munster and all that, but guess what? The 2 types theory is how you can maximize your potential if you are serious about attracting your dream guy.
*For your profile, come across as fun, interesting, and a girl that will make a man's life better. For the love of God, men are sick of reading:
"If you cant handle me at my worst, you don't deserve me at my best" (great, now I know that you're crazy and wont fess up to it)
"You need to love my curves, I'm not changing" (No, Ill just date someone with a gym membership)
"Not looking for a booty call" (Oh yeah, me either)
"I love dressing up and going out, and am just as comfortable laying on the couch watching Netflix" (Wow, you are so down to earth. Guess what? SO IS EVERY GIRL ON HERE)
Here are how you can drastically raise DSV without much effort:
1. Take better pictures showing you doing cool stuff. Experiment with black and white photography and have at least one pic of you really dressed up.
2. Buy some new clothes that are fitted to your body type, and are bright exciting colors
3. Girls work out your legs, butt and arms, guys, work out your shoulders and maximize your jawline through a lot of cardio
4. Work on your writing. Be funny, quick witted and edgy. It shows people that you aren't boring.
5. The two things all people respect are confidence and sense of humor. Develop both.
Tuesday, November 17, 2015
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I have spent the last 5 years exclusively studying high tier geniuses and top level performers. Navy SEALs, CEOs, millionaires, and entertainers. I have compiled habits and practices that WILL help you process info at a higher level and cut down on roadblocks.
Remember, intelligence is NOT necessarily degrees, it can be:
*having a very high aptitude at a skill
*using social engineering properly
*being a very creative problem solver
*having the ability to process information from multiple sources quickly
*matching the right person to the right solution
Remember, you are reading the writing of a man that failed out of high school and two colleges, and grew up in a family filled with drugs, crime and dysfunction. I should be washing dishes in a bowling alley right now. But I developed my potential. Through asymmetrical actions that were not the "typical" ways that people go through life.
Now that we have a better idea of what "smart” is, let’s get started. six of the fastest techniques to create the “perfect storm” of intelligence building are the following:
1. Learn to Categorize and Rank Information
One of the most valuable time savers is learning to quickly judge how valuable information is. Whether it’s a website, an article or a resource, you should be able to scan it in 20 seconds and ask three things:
- Does this have SERIOUS value to my business/life?
- Can I use this information to help someone/monetize/advance?
- Is this something that will IMMEDIATELY impact my life in a good way?
If you cannot answer yes to all three, TOSS IT and move on. If you can, bookmark it for later.
2. Leverage Valuable People by Social Engineering
We cannot succeed at our endeavors alone. The faster you realize how important social engineering is, the faster you will advance in your goals. As a child, I had to do my own laundry since about 13. I left home at 18, and had to figure everything out on my own. Asking for help was NOT one of my strong points and I paid by taking much longer at projects and advancing as an adult.
Learn right away to spot value adders and offer a 3:1 ROI if you need something from them (you give 3 times more than you ask for)
*Influencers - people that have HIGH social value or lots of friends
*Mentors - people that are where you want to be in 5 years
*High Analyticals - These are people that can listen to your issue, filter out all unnecessary details and give a solution devoid of fluff, emotion, or wasted time.
3. Healthy Use of Legal Neutropics
Neutropics are safe, natural drugs that are the next generation of cognitive enhancement. They are not prescription level or addictive like pain drugs. They literally use natural ingredients to help your brain process information faster and reduce “brain fog.”
I personally use a stack of Alphabrain and Strive from Nootrobox. Add a tiny amount of Starbucks Americano and some form of intense cardio in the morning and you would be shocked how fast your work improves. In fact I got so effective on these drugs, that I started selling them on my website. The results speak for themselves:
- 8 mile beach runs from reverse engineering running techniques
- My last book took 6 hours to write from beginning to end (publishing)
- A buddy asked for an outline on a 12 page paper covering gun control. I had it done in 9 minutes.
I am not a medical doctor. I make no claims as to how well these will augment your abilities. I just know that I am a high performer and this is one of the routines that has consistently delivered.
When I am using the same techniques as
Valley millionaires and CEOs, (I myself am a dual CEO currently)
then I know I am doing something right. This is a great article on neutropics
with cited study:
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4. Implement Music as an Auditory Enhancer
You can create an "advanced mental laboratory" simply from listening to music in the background when working on projects. I used classical music as a backdrop for high end research. You can use Youtube or Pandora (my personal favorite is Mahler’s 2nd, plus it’s over an hour long)
Studies have shown that classical music can improve student performance:
Study on listening to music and academia:
Finding your musical “sweet spot” will help you create a mental laboratory in which you will process info faster, do higher level searches of information and write with better vocabulary/higher tier concepts.
5. Use the 80/20 Principle to Maximize Your Doctoral Process
The 80/20 principle is crucial for cutting time wasters and keeping only the most valuable resources in your life. For our intent today, it means this: 20% of people and resources will create 80% of your total value. You have a huge amount of resources in your day to day life. Assigning value to your top ones will save you time. Here are my best resources to fast track your progress at anything using the 80/20:
1. Purge the whiners and complainers. You know who they are. They criticize everything you do, blame everyone else for their issues and should have a giant "V" stamped on their forehead because there's a crisis every week that they desperately need sympathy for.
2. On the other hand, when you find a person that is a human gold nugget, get involved in their life, support their endeavors and offer help if they need it. They will reward you with referrals, invites, top notch advice, and more. Investment in human capital yields huge results.
6. Limitless Advantage
The most important thing I have personally done to advance my own cognitive abilities is to buy the book Limitless.
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Yes, you read that right. You may have seen the movie and it is great to promote the concept of the "super pill" that creates a four digit IQ, but the book teaches you how geniuses think.
The movie is stellar as a glimpse of rapid life advancement and what we can become, but the book will literally show you how a high level thinker approaches social engineering, information gathering, gaining personal confidence, and the process of doing things at the highest possible level of application.
That last section is huge. It means that there are multiple ways of creating solutions to any problem but imagine being able to always pick the best and most productive one.
THAT is the beauty and power of this book. You can get it here:
In summary, these are my best tips. I want to thank you for reading this. If you feel like this article provided you with value, do me a HUGE favor and share it. Hope to hear from you soon, Dr. Rob
If you have high level tips that made you smarter, send them to me! email@example.com.
Wednesday, November 4, 2015
I have been depressed for most of my life. I have never admitted it to myself until today. I have never talked to anyone about it and feel its time to come clean.
As I started life coaching, I read a lot of emails and read between the lines. Many of the guys writing me were fighting depression and felt overwhelmed. I thought that this paper could help them.
I have always been a mildly sad person. As a kid, I grew up in a really dysfunctional family and 9th grade in high school was the worst. I was overweight, poor, being bullied in school pretty badly by a group of dicks and worst of all, lived with my grandmother who was a hoarder. Picture entire bedrooms filled floor to ceiling with clothes and garbage. Every one of my family members were openly abusing drugs. One uncle stole things from my room to buy meth when I was at school, and everyone in my family was overweight and good at excuses. That was 1990 and it nearly broke me.
Depression is usually caused by four systematic things:
Event- Something traumatic or sad occurs and directly contributes to the sufferer's mood and pain
Situation- An ongoing life situation causes depression to creep in and linger
Chemical- The brain creates depression at regular intervals
Seasonal- A time of the year causes depression due to increased darkness or traumatic association
Isolation- The feeling that we are alone from family, loved ones and friends
□ loss of interest in life or events
□ excess sleeping
□ sad mood for no reason
□ withdrawn from events
□ no energy
□ short or angry with relatives/spouse
If you recognize any of these things in your life, don't wait and don't put off treating this. Depression will usually not go away on its own. I think of it as a "treatable parasite of the brain." It is curable but you must make that decision.
I came up with some ideas to mitigate the presence of depression and get you "back in the saddle" for your life.
7 Powerful Treatments for Depression
Outdoor activities- People that stay indoors or in bed are robbing themselves of Vitamin D which we absorb from the sun through our skin. This can cause depression. Make it a point to create things that involve being outside. Go to the beach, go to a park, just go for a walk a few times a week. The point is, GO OUTSIDE!!
Conceptualize Future Dynamic Events- One thing I do when I get stressed or feel like nothing is going on, is to imagine the future events that are going to be amazing. For me, its a new condo I am saving up to move into. By taking 10 minutes and focusing on a great future event and how it will look/feel, you will be invigorated and excited.
Embrace Comedy- Get a friend and go to a comedy show or open mic. This serves a few purposes. It will get you around people, gets you out of the house, and listening to comedy gives you new perspectives on life. Talk to people at the club and soak in the experience and joy of laughter.
Get Active- One thing we can do as human beings is to jumpstart our endorphin system with active actions. Start running in the morning, go join a hot yoga class, ride a mountain bike, or go swimming. By increasing your heart rate and getting sweaty, you will transition into a better mental state. Plus, the additional fitness will draw people to you, both noticeably and subconsciously.
Isolate a Skill Set and Use it to Help Others- This was my key to shattering my depression. I figured out where my skill set was and offered it to others for free. This created a ripple effect of bringing others into my life, got me a lot of praise (and on the news for a book I wrote), and gave me so much purpose that I didn't have time to be sad. Think about something you are good at. Now take that skill and do something with it that benefits others. You could start a Meetup group, write a book, or even create a seminar or a video that teaches others how to do this. We all have skills and talents. Sharing them is a great way to create happiness.
Animals- The great thing about animals are that they love unconditionally. When was the last time you held a puppy, fed a baby goat, or pet a horse? Search out a petting zoo, visit a shelter, or go see a friend with pets. Animals are great companions and will cheer you up quickly.
Make an Aggressive Life Change- My worst bouts of depression were caused by boredom and loneliness. Once I joined a professionals group, I got involved in people's lives, sharing my experiences and large amounts of info from books I have read. I felt a sense of purpose and belonging. Make a promise to yourself and join a new class, start writing a book, create a blog, or join a new fitness program.
Remember the following five statements:
You do not "deserve" to be depressed
Every day you let depression control your life is a day of reduced productivity, income, and your meaningful impact on others
Just by reading this article, you have taken a huge step in creating a victory against your depression
Nearly everything in your life is a result of your choices. Choose a treatment and create a program of happiness and abundance.
The greatest version of you is waiting every day for you to take charge and beat this. Be that person.
To be honest, the best treatment I have found is to surround myself with fun, exciting people that are genuinely into your life and hobbies. Embrace these people and make sure you appreciate them.
If you are having a tough go of it and ever just need a friend to talk to, I am always available. firstname.lastname@example.org